I wish she ….

 

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I wish she had learned to crawl  ..( 2 months old)

I wish she had learned  to walk … (6 months old)

I wish she would be able  run …( 1 year old)

I wish she would sit quietly….( after 1.5)

This is a kind of never ending wishes, when my lil pie was born , I wanted her to sit n talk to me, or play with me and I thought that , it would be more relaxing , but every stage was a new challenge.

When she started to crawl  , it was like where ever I go , she was just right behind me ,everywhere. 😛  I know its the case with every mom. When she started to walk around , she always wanted to walk , and sometimes when am in a hurry , I just wished she could run with me , and I think the wish was soon granted.

When she started to run , I just wanted her to sit somewhere peacefully and so that could gulp in a few sips of my tea  , but instead , it was like I never got a chance to sit and eat or drink.  And now , its like I have to force her to go and sleep , or play , just to get to some ‘my time’ .

Anyways good enough that I learned very well  to cook , eat , sleep  , play , talk and do many things with one hand, half mind and half concentration , as all other mommies  . Yes , the other half or may be three- fourth for my lovely lil daughter.

Other day when I spoke to a new mommy , she just repeated what I had always been saying since I became a mom , ” I wish my kid just started to walk , rather than lying down and playing ”  , I couldn’t stop laughing , because I know what a new mom expects ,” to relax a lil bit  at least” thinking that if the kid is own their own they may not bother their moms. , which is just a wish . 

But once the kids are grown up , they stop to look for us ,rather they need to be alone all the time and mothers will deeply wish to get a second with their kids.

So am truly , cherishing all the moments with her , rather than wishing for something new.

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Joy of Cooking

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In my early years , I always hated the idea of cooking and was rather interested in eating whatever my mom cooked.

I thought marriage was dangerous , as I will have to cook all the time and the worst of all what will be the condition of who eats it. But who can stop the destiny , I got married . 😦 , them the initial stage of cooking was like all trial and error , as I wasn’t sure what to make and how to make and as all newly weds have  , I too had lot many confusions in my mind.

Luckily , in some or the other way , some dishes came out well , so I was kind of relaxed ,but always got tensed when I had guests at home. Cooking was kind of curiosity , until I see a smile from my husbands face after he has the first bite of it , I am always worried ,since he checks whether the food is appetizing . I am thankful for that , he was the one who motivated me in cooking , as all other people , I too loved to be praised for what i did. 🙂

And now cooking has become a passion, as I wanted to make something always special for my daughter. I love to see her eat what I cook and when she says “its delicious mama ” , I am happy. That is more than any other appreciation I have ever received. 

I was someone , who hated the idea of cleaning and cooking , but now am someone who insist to do it, as I don’t want her to learn bad things from me and I have to set a good example for her .

Children learn from what we do , rather than what we tell them , they should do.

Learning the unspoken words

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As I always said , life is quite easier when kids can read through the expressions of their parents and understand them.

I have seen many parents who calm their kids with just a mere look  and I always wondered what does the kid understand from just silence.Earlier I shout at my lil one ,and thought shouting will make them hear a lil bit better and I may sound like am angry  , but most of the time it turned out to be a big failure. The more I shout , the more irritated we both used to get and at last it will be me , who keeps mouth shut as I never have energy to fight again.

At last I thought , may be I should try the same methods as other parents , at least for sometime they may keep calm.She used to understand most of the time if am angry , and immediately to make me smile , she gives me a kiss. She thinks that kiss is like a remedy for her mom’s anger , so that I don’t shout at her or get angry.With a lovely kiss, she melts our heart.

Yesterday , I had a bad throat pain , that I was not able to speak ,so I though better not to shout at her for anything and kept quite.She was banging the xylophone on the door , and I was as usual angry , but I just kept quite and looked at her sharply , and immediately she looked at me, and stopped doing that and asked me ” why not” , still i didn’t reply her, and then she felt that something was wrong and immediately put her xylophone down saying “OKK” .

I couldn’t resist laughing , and I was happy , silence works .  🙂

Sharing,Caring ,loving and many more to go

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We always find it difficult to share something with anyone, loving someone unconditionally and care selflessly.

I keep telling my daughter , that you should learn to share and am sure every other mom does it.The other day I saw a video where in they shared a lovely message ,” If you give a little love, you can receive a little love of your own” . This is something that everyone doesn’t do, its easy to make a video , and share a good message for goodness but difficult to follow.

Everyone is busy in their own world, with their work, life, relationships stand apart from everything.Even a small gesture of affection is enough to make someone happy. It need not be an expensive gift, an expensive holiday or shopping , or as simple as a lovely  flower , everything seems less in front of a lovely smile and the time you spend with a loved ones.

A family becomes a family , when everyone shares,cares ,love and support  each other unconditionally.How lovely a life will be when no one has to tell their loved one , how much they are happy , or sad or troubled , but still they know and finds a way to help us or share our happiness. 🙂

Siblings

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Before being a mom , I used to wonder how people manage kids, and when am a mom , i keep wondering how do people manage more than one kid. 

How do they manage when both the kids cry? How do they manage to buy same toys for both kids ? How do they travel with two or more kids? Like that so many questions pop up in my mind. Some advice me , not to have second one , as they find it difficult to manage ,ans a few tells me , its so adorable to see the kids enjoy together especially sibling enjoy together more.

I know the real fun of having a sibling , as  I have a brother with whom , I fight a lot, play a lot, and many more things we do. We share our thoughts , our dreams , its so special always to have someone always to hear us.How much ever we fight ,its difficult to stay away. 

I still remember the days ,when I used to feed him his food in his mouth ,even though at times I hate doing it , as its like pampering him more still , i enjoyed it , may be even now , I can do it. We both talk for hours ,even if there is no topic as such to talk about.He makes fun of me, play pranks , hit me, even I do all those on him still we are brother and sister. 

At one point in life ,we all require someone like a brother or sister ,even if it to fight or for a shoulder to cry on. With a brother or sister , we learn to share,love, kindness and  friendship  , everything doesn’t happen easily in any relation , it takes time and time heals everything.When I see how bigger kids take care of their younger ones , its so beautiful .

A sibling may be the keeper of one’s identity, the only person with the keys to one’s unfettered, more fundamental self.  ~Marian Sandmaier