Chill out time

Had pani puris after long long time .

Its a joyous thing for me of course not for many may be and I may sound stupid , but I find joy in all these small happening around me.

After having married and having kids, its like am in some other world, not much time for myself. And moreover I can’t think of shopping or any other activities until am able to manage both the kids outside. Thanks to my friend who in spite of me wasting her time  and talking bla bla for hours ,takes me along anywhere.

It’s when I remembered the times when myself and my bestie used to roam around ,we hardly get an hour or may be half an hour out of our busy life, we walk around and have so many things randomly, something we both loved to. At that time we had empty hands , and now when i look back , I just could recollect how much foodies we were.

Some times we need to chill out and get back to our life with full on energy , i know it’s not truly possible , but yes may be having few good friends who can tolerate our kids we will be able manage to chill out a lil.

Ofcourse my life is not boring , but I miss few activities which I used to do earlier.

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Report Card !!! – Evaluating kids

Report card for small kids !!! 

I was quite surprised about hearing , even exams , I never thought they would start evaluating for these small young kids . What do they write at this age, this age is to enjoy and learn from their surroundings. 

But anyway happy to see a beautiful report card and more over got to see a lot many pictures about the day-o-day activities in my daughters class. She is not very active but happy to go to school , and thats more important for me.

Schools should not be a place to restrict them ,they should give them the freedom to enjoy and learn. Thats when kids love to be in school. I strongly believe that it’s all upon the teachers and the environment that makes a child be happy about his school. All kids needs pampering and lots of attention, either they attract it else they demand it. 

I was happy to see how much my lil gal has improved and gained confidence, she was shown her report card, even though the words don’t matter her , her class teacher took her closely and read out what exactly she had written and asked her was she happy with it. My cute lil gal was someway happy , so was we as parents .

As parents its proud moment , but we insisted that we don’t too many high grades, if she has to study she will study, its her wish, forcing her to do anything, we felt its needless and bad . We just wanted her happiness, the cute smile lit on her face should not fade away.

Let our kids be independent and happy in what they do .And hopefully we could keep up this promise forever.

Fun – pursuing what makes you happy

How do you define fun time ?

For me as everyone else  it’s just doing nothing or something that gives me pleasure. 

I have seen my lil one enjoying while she draws what comes in her imagination or just her favourite cartoon characters. She keeps trying hard until she is able to draw a picture perfect one. Thats when she shows me ,the picture else she will not. She is usually a kind of person , whose enjoyment are restricted to being idle at one place , she is not usually into running around , but that doesn’t make her sound bored. 

Fun is not about how adventurous you do , or  others think if you do that you are fun to be with. Most girls enjoy shopping , and thats supposed to be a fun time for ‘her’. Most bus love drinking ,smoking , bike rides, etc and to the extreme of jumping off from an aeroplane  etc all those madness , as it sounds to me. People categorise others as boring when they don’t match to their taste of fun .

Everyone has their own interest ,let them pursue it .

It’s the same with kids took , some kids are hyperactive, some are silent, but they enjoy however they want to.  If try to make our kids like others whats the point , they lose their individuality. They will not be what they have to be.Its like we are pressurizing them to be what we want them to be . Always let them have their own space , so that they learn to develop their imagination and creativity. 

We as parents need not suppress what our kids like , let them be different from others there is no harm in it, even if they don’t bring in high grades. Grades are not important , it’s just that we need our kids to be important. Kids need to be taught about appreciating what they have, the knowledge they acquire. Every kid may not be perfect in school , luckily we can show great people who are drop-outs as examples, but still there are many parents who insist on 99% marks , and they forget they are torturing those kids. ( God save those kids).

Make our kids just what they want to be, let them pursue what they like, then they have whats exactly fun in life.

Sneak out….

Shhh …..silence …i just can hear the fan and some stupid vehicles outside my house honking (while i curse them for making sounds and tryng to wake up my darling )…just silence otherwise…i slowly moved away from her..taking my fingers slowly out of her small cute hand and strated to crawl out of bed.

I kept my breath still …and moved  a lil further and almost reached the end…and then  just turned to look my lil one sleeping…then slowly got up from my bed .
 
To ensure that i have kept enough pillows for her safety,  i crosschecked the position and slowly moved a few steps further from the bed…again…just as i reached the door i turned back and what do i see
….???

My cutie pie is upturned and wide awake giving me a cute smile conveying me  that ”  mummy you are not smart enough to put me to sleep and sleak out , don’t play with me mumma” .

At that point am not sure whether to smile or not and finally ….i just did nothing but smile and again cuddle on the bed with her.

Daughters

Sometimes i feel its just injustice all pains for daughters and nothing for sons.

The moment girls are born parents know that one day they will sail off to some other family to an unknown world. So strange isin’t it , yes and ofcourse there is no other option , girls has to live with it the bitter truth.

Parents love , educate , make them capable and finally they are off to some home because they are taught to be good and obedient and has to live with another family and make a family of their own.

Luckily nowadays generation has nuclear families , so its just small world  and many can easily get adjusted and moreover both the gal as well as the boy gets equal share if pain of being away from family .

Lets not educate gals to be a household no more housewives as we are not married to a house , let our daughters use the value of education provided to them.

One day i too will achieve my dream and make my parents n my family proud. I want to be the best mum to my darling daughters and inspire them to be independent , it doesnt mean I might run away from looking after them , i want to enrich and nourish them and make them strong and capable .

Daughters are a blessing , they bring immense pleasure and happiness .Their smile just spread awsomeness in our life. Continue reading Daughters