Category Archives: Mommy musings

Tips for ideal breastfeeding for new mothers

 

A baby is a new beginning for everyone, especially for a mother.  The first few weeks are the struggle to feed the child right.

Here are few tips for the same :

 

https://www.newswindow.org/news/details/best-ways-to-ease-breastfeeding-for-all-the-first-time-mothers

 

Happy Reading !!!

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Break Away

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Every morning the alarms ring, reminding her childhood days, where it was her mom calling her out to wake up.  She wished for those days, to return, where she could slip back into the blanket and sleep more cosy on those early winter mornings.

But, shaken by the world she lives currently, she wakes up and hurries to the busy world, which never stops or let her stop.

But, her thoughts were always busy – she thought what if I stop, for a while?

Will it bother anyone around her or even cause her to fall back?

She never got those answers…

As she hurdled in those thoughtful mornings, where she craved for a warm cup of tea, extended by someone…..but there were none to offer her one.. as the real world is never magical.

She went ahead preparing her cup of tea… as her tummy awaited for those warm drippings to touch the bowel system. She hurried, to silence the nature calls and the cravings for a sip of tea, which always brought in thousands of memories of every stage in her life.

For once, like every other girl, she wanted to grow soon to be independent….

but she thought – Is she really independent – other than cooking her own food?

her choices are adulterated 

her dreams are adulterated

her future is adulterated 

her speech is adulterated

there is nothing, where she was alone. Everything she did was adulterated with others choices, dreams, life and even words. What was she doing, for her own self?

Even when these thoughts mumbled in her brain, her hands never stopped , her chores.. She ran errands, doing everything everyone wanted.

her day, went on … until the moment she gets on her own time…but when is it?

Everyone assumed she could take a break and relax when all went on for their own duties… but really does she take a break- the shaken world never lets her relax. She works on other things required for all.

She went on and on and on…. until she decided SHE NEED A BREAK.

Yes, A Break from life – it will be her deathbed.

 

 

 

Learning from my child …or unlearning few things

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The usual lazy afternoons where I spend working as well watching my lil one play around is the common scenario, one might get to see as they come home.

My lil one, who is awaiting her sister to return from her school, forces me to be her game partner. But yes, All I have to do is just listen to her, focussing her, leaving no gap on attending to her words.

And, yes like an obedient mother,, I sit and listen to her, engrossed in her talks, which are sweeter than honey to me.

She was playing with her dolls, one of which was a joker, another one a boy baby and another one a girl baby. She was making up a story and enacting it to me, like a puppet show.

She said that the girl baby is cooking and the boy baby is sleeping all along. To my surprise, the sleeping feminism in me was shaken. I asked her curiously, why is that the boy baby is not doing anything. To this she gave me a weird smiling, telling me ” mama, the boy baby don’t know anything, he just eats“. It took me totally dumbstruck… what!!! what on earth made her think so… Is it my fault .. oh My !! Am I really bringing up another girl, showing her that none of the men works in the kitchen :P.

Immediately, I said ” No baby, you should ask the boy baby to wake up and help the girl baby in the kitchen. The boy baby doesn’t know anything, so the girl baby can teach him and slowly the boy baby will help the girl baby“.

She listened to every word I said carefully and immediately came to the boy baby, waking up from his deep slumber.

Ah! Finally, I saw that the boy baby and the girl baby are working together in the kitchen…

Seriously I felt a great Relief !!!

No words could explain that feeling.

Raising independent women is never easy, but never impossible. I just wish that everyone be it a boy or girl, work with a sense of responsibility towards their home equally.

We don’t want equality , but understanding and sharing. 

 

Where our heart beats echoed in our ears

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You awaken the mother as well as the child in me

as I lay cuddling you, letting you spoon into my body

you held your tiny little fingers caressing my cheeks

as if I was the little one,

kissing on my nose, rekindling my emotions

as I lay with my eyes open, watching you drift slowly into sleep

holding my hands closer to your tiny heart..that beats heavenly in my ears

I re-live the moment you were in my womb

where you and I had the single heartbeat echoing in our ears.

What do you do when your child demands a new toy? – Parenting muses

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It is being a long time, I penned something different.

Was monotonicity ever bothering me? 

No, never while I am writing my heart out.

Today, as I was skimming through my insta posts, which I check every five minutes out of curiosity, found a post asking for some honest answers from parents, ” What do you do if your child asks you for a new toy or something new that came in the shop? How do you go about handling the child then, if he/she demands? ” 

It was quite thought-provoking for me. I threw myself on to my chair, thinking deep and investigating my thoughts from every corner of my head. Finally, I found it quite interesting.

What would I do, if I was in such state? 

I would obviously buy it, as I can’t stand my child’s sad face. But is it really right… NO, A clean NO to it. Working on kids demands make them very stubborn and demanding, which is not a wise decision.

We as parents have brittle hearts than out kids, hence mostly, all parents like me, would be melting like ice on a hot day in front of those sweet faces.

But, to be a good parent. Stop melting.

As we are not doing it right. 

If a kid demands, make them understand, that spending a lot on Toys is never feasible. If they don’t try rewarding them . By rewarding, we keep them confident and feel responsible for what they do.

I guess that would be an ideal way to deal than arguing over unwanted things.

What do you say, my fellow friends? Pour in your suggestions. Let us all help each other in making life smoother.