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Learning from my child …or unlearning few things

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The usual lazy afternoons where I spend working as well watching my lil one play around is the common scenario, one might get to see as they come home.

My lil one, who is awaiting her sister to return from her school, forces me to be her game partner. But yes, All I have to do is just listen to her, focussing her, leaving no gap on attending to her words.

And, yes like an obedient mother,, I sit and listen to her, engrossed in her talks, which are sweeter than honey to me.

She was playing with her dolls, one of which was a joker, another one a boy baby and another one a girl baby. She was making up a story and enacting it to me, like a puppet show.

She said that the girl baby is cooking and the boy baby is sleeping all along. To my surprise, the sleeping feminism in me was shaken. I asked her curiously, why is that the boy baby is not doing anything. To this she gave me a weird smiling, telling me ” mama, the boy baby don’t know anything, he just eats“. It took me totally dumbstruck… what!!! what on earth made her think so… Is it my fault .. oh My !! Am I really bringing up another girl, showing her that none of the men works in the kitchen :P.

Immediately, I said ” No baby, you should ask the boy baby to wake up and help the girl baby in the kitchen. The boy baby doesn’t know anything, so the girl baby can teach him and slowly the boy baby will help the girl baby“.

She listened to every word I said carefully and immediately came to the boy baby, waking up from his deep slumber.

Ah! Finally, I saw that the boy baby and the girl baby are working together in the kitchen…

Seriously I felt a great Relief !!!

No words could explain that feeling.

Raising independent women is never easy, but never impossible. I just wish that everyone be it a boy or girl, work with a sense of responsibility towards their home equally.

We don’t want equality , but understanding and sharing. 

 

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Doing what is right , even when it is hurting is better

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We are humans, so naturally, we all are ought to be in situations, which are totally absurd and irrelevant or even inescapable.

What do we do then? 

It is hard to say, yet not hard to do.

Most of the times we sugar coat the lies and present them in the most admirable manner, catching the utmost attention. At times, it is irrelevant and unnecessary too.

Imagine you have a baby who eats every minute. It is like unstoppable hunger. Sometimes, it is just not the baby, but the mother itself, overfeeding the baby. I don’t know how far mothers can relate to this, there are times, I have noticed someones assuming that the baby needs more food, as it is not clearly seen on their body.

I look at the child, and in utter shock, I have asked myself several times ” Is she mad, can’t they see the baby is clearly fit and fine, why they have to toss this much food into them :O”.

What do you do?

A totally emotional mom like me will try to fill her/his platter the very moment they ask for it thinking they are actually starving. Luckily kids are totally weird to impress us that they are hungry.

But is it right?

No !! We shouldn’t be doing so, as feeding your child excessively is harmful to his/her health. So what you should be doing?

Great !! That’s when we need to think right. Kick your emotional side off the plate, and strictly say “NO” to your child.

It is expected that they might show off tantrums unbearable. But firmly assure your mind that, you are indeed doing right.

Growing number of obesity-related illness in kids is alarming, hence it is important for each and every parent to check twice what they offer their child to eat. You might be hurting him/her for an instance, but it is for their better future.

Everything we do for the child has something beneficial in the long run. Be it education, or health or even money. Unwanted supply of money to soothe a demand is crucial for any child mental development. It might be an easy trick to calm down the current scenario, but, it is never a wise step.

A small pinch in time will save the lifetime. 

Hence, a small hurt will be just temporary as compared to the biggest trauma coming on your way.

Being emotional , we are targeted

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An off-late realisation, crossing my mind, even though this bothered me for quite some time.

Yes, indeed, we being the emotional fools.. “yes” – fools are tricked multiple times. Rather knowingly or unknowingly. Precisely I say, knowingly being utilized. Most of the times, we just let things happen, even when we know we cannot handle it well enough .. We let people target ourselves, and use it to the maximum until we have nothing to lose.

Sad !!

Isn’t it. Yes !! But nothing can be done in that case. Being truly truthful to ourselves, we know we don’t fool our hearts, but let them be baffled for some time.

Me being an “emotional idiot” mostly land up in troubles as well as delve into something unusual… Do you think I really don’t’ know? No.. you are wrong, I know I am putting my self into a trouble, even though I do not know how to run out of it. I just wait -watch and dissolve in it. 

The interesting part of being a woman is that even our kids emotionally fool us. Just for getting their things done. Should we be like this all along?

I really don’t know, but at times, It leads me to think, being so emotional and attached is causing me a lot more than I can imagine.

Most women who are emotionally tied up

  • Loose freedom
  • Loose job
  • Loose opinions
  • Lose their stance
  • Loose their power

So what do they gain actually?

Again as my thoughts itching my brain, I understood we(emotional beings) are here to be the shoulder to cry on, to lean on, to be the base support( even when we are crushed under it).

YAY!!!

Finally, I understood, what emotional beings are for. At times it is wise enough to be silent and emotional, in front of those futile ones, who never know what they are up to.

A winner is a winner , only when there are losers to fail, else it must be a self-race. 

Rusting or old age?

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Life is showing trouble signs

singing the melody of my

breaking bones

is old age encroaching me

or am being rusted with the people around

Never knowing the hurdles laid down for me

I walked away, in life

Short of sour… I gave what I could

to make it overwhelmingly mine.

Life is too short to stop

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Over the recent happenings around me, which took me to the deep dungeons of my thoughts, I couldn’t help myself from writing this.

I lost the most important pillar of my life in the last month, which left me no choice to think, what exactly my life has to give. My routines never change, my food never changes, I don’t follow any different lifestyle – AM mostly living in a monotony.

Will that be worth living? 

I don’t know yet, but yes I am thinking over and over it again. All life we just do things, as we are following the footsteps. For me, yes am mostly following the footsteps of my mom – with a lil deviation. The deviation is that , Am pursuing what I always wanted to, within the limited space of time and living.

Off late, many sudden incidents are capturing my thoughts, shaking my reality away. Till then, I was never a plan person, I love surprises (though I don’t have any ) and  I love unplanned life. But now I guess, in the recent renditions, I need to have a bucket list. 

Again, Needless to say, I do not know what to add in my bucket list.

Life is too short. 

I do not know what I might wish in the very next minute. But I wish I could be happier when I die, even if it is now or later.

Just to keep myself motivated, I jotted down a few points  for myself and for everyone like me :

  1. Do not just live to be washing machine and a dishwasher.
  2. Take a deviation, for achieving your dreams.
  3. If you are too sensitive like me, choose to do what you like, within the diameter of your lifestyle.
  4. Enjoy your best moments with your family and friends.
  5. Do take time out with friends. ( Which I need to solely count on.. which is never happening..thnx to my friends, who are more like me 😛 )
  6.  Explore your hidden potentials, technology is giving you the chance to be on your own at your comfort ( Explore jobsforher.com, sheroes.com .. you get wonderful opportunities to explore and work on )
  7. Count your blessings, than your problems. ( it is hard to find blessing in this selfish society, though) .
  8.  You don’t have to compete always, enjoy the small race of life to achieve the best moments.
  9. Be with your child, there is nothing more than watching them grow.
  10. Be the best of you always and forever.

I do not know how far people can relate to this. But for me yes.

Money comes and leaves too… but memories stay forever, make good memories or be a part of the good memories, you will be loved forever. 

I just wish, I could live my life conquering every hurdle I encounter with a smile and never repent on my death bed, that “I could never live”.

Have blessed Life !!!!

Life is just once, let us live it.