Obsession of Fair and Slim

Our society is so obsessed with slim figures and fair skin , that they seriously turn down all other people without even looking at them. 

Is it right ? 

Sadly I heard my daughter too distinguish her friends as the same, In order that she does not repeat it , I said all people are good irrespective of the colour , and I gave her the example of myself , too. 

me: See even am not fair baby, don’t I love you, Don’t I play with you. Don’t you like me.

she: yes mom I do love you. 

Me :so all people are good , they need not be fair to be good . 

People around us keep telling that ,being fair is beautiful , being slim is also beautiful ,so what about other normal prop around the world are they not beautiful, we need to educate our kids that beauty comes from a beautiful heart. 

Everyone things that a fat person cannot do anything, and they are fat because they are lazy , I wonder what kind of judgement is that . Some are so blindfolded that they don’t even realise the hurt they give to them  ,by staring or commenting on their  physical appearance . 

I guess thats why everyone is so busy going to beauty parlour , to cover up all their original beauties and give a fake look . Am not a critic on people who are so much into being beautiful , its just my own opinion. 

The beauty comes from our heart, and when we are happy , we project our happiness on our face and we become beautiful , that the beauty we see in babies and kids . 

God has created us with different looks and shapes and sizes and we all have purpose in life. Some times I have wondered that God made me plump so that I can handle two kids well.

🙂

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Expectations

When we expect a lot , we do not get anything. 

Nowadays kids are in a big stressful world , where everyone expects a lot more than they can be. This is actually troubling their childhood and most of the time we parents do realise we are doing bad to our own loveable darlings.

Before they are born itself , we tend to get deciding oh they will b this n that etc etc. Again once they are born, we set some milestones , movement, visions, speech, hearing , and many many more. I seriously believe that other than the normal things , which need to noticed , the rest we need not worry. I remember the days when I was criticised for my kid not talking much , because my kid never reached their kids milestones ( how can that be possible , my kid is just mine, she  can be not their child). People expect a lot and be judgemental on other moms. Many moms tend to think that their own kid has some problem and they keep searching net which gives particularly some symptoms , which actually make us feel as if our child has some irregularity. 

Once the child is on school, all parents want their  kid to be first , how can it be possible. The world is turning into a competitive one , seems everyone want to reach the top , how can we move up without going through the lower layers. If its girl she should learn dance, music, or drawing, .. or if its a boy only football, cricket etc, if suppose a guy wants to learn dance its like , people start to think the boy has some girlish traits (is it really necessary to think as such ).

Why do people complicate things by thinking too much . Let everyone live their life on their own, let them decide what exactly they want to do. We are not born to meet someones expectations , we need to meet our own expectations. We should not be competing others , I hate competitions , wherein only first 3 are benefited ,and the rest ,are left without even being appreciated.Actually we are building up a nation full of competitors , what do we get , when we go above someones level , those happiness are for ever.

Hope everything changes , or I guess probably things might get worst.Stop expecting an start living.

Nostalgic memories about childhood

While playing with youtube , I found out all those indie pop songs I used to hear during my school days. Sometimes we need to revive on our memories , it helps brig back our good times. 

Childhood was all crazy fun , I remember that once am addicted to a song , I used to record it thousand times on a cassette as am lazy to rewind it many times. But yes, it was so difficult to stick on to a song for a long time.The interests keep changing.

I used to keep playing the songs all night and all day and finally when am bored I sleep of . I was used to even studying with the songs playing in my background. Even when am writing exams , instead of answers I quite nicely remember the songs played. Thank gGod , I was saved by passing all exams , otherwise my songs will be stopped forever. 

Now there are many variety of music around , still my old time fav are still my fav and when I play them at home, my kids too love it and keep dancing to it. All those music albums of sonu nigam , alisha, models , anuradha , and many more.  Its good to flow back in memory and revive whats good in those times.

Music is a true memory saver, it helps us to get back what we have forgotten. 

Never enough

We all have a basic problem , that nothing is ever or never enough for all of us, we all want more and more.

And kids are always more like , they need more attention, they need more care, they need more chocolates, and they need more time from everyone. My nandu loves to spend time with her granny a, the moment she goes back to her native, nandu starts off saying ,when are we going to granny place .She loves to roam around with her granny , even though we have travelled around 10-12 hours in car to meet her , or if she is sleepy or how ever she is tired. I sometimes feel jealous  about it, but thats how it should be , the grandchild and grandparents bonding are like that. 

I always hate it when my kids have mere bonding with anyone else other than me, yea lil jealous me . I know its bad , and I will take my own time to recover from that syndrome. 😉 .

But when I look at how happy she is , I can sacrifice anything for her. Some times I become so mean , I shout at her, I compare her with her lil sister , who is more notorious than her. But then suddenly I realise I should not , when I just wanted her to be herself , hope she listens only the good thing she need to and take it to her heart. 

My lil gopika , is too much sometimes ,the moment she sees her dad, she does;t let him move here and there , she need full attention from him. She want his to lift her ,cuddle her, even without him keeping his bag down .She doesn’t like him going anywhere , not even to change his dress or wash his face , she needs him to be with her all time and she is not even  letting her sister share her time with him. I know she doesn’t even get a proper time with him, as he is busy in his work. 

The only reason , I hate being thinking of a working mom , is that ,I don;t want to loose this precious time with my kids . Yea, of course I know all can find time , but what if we could not , what if I get lost , sometime the passion of work gets over to you and poor lil gets kids , get only parents with a mobile and a laptop near them ,and no smiles and no hugs. 

I guess thats the worst thing we can do to our kids ,I am not passionate for a job, but I do need a good one , which gives me enough time with my kids , my family. I don’t mind waiting for the right one too . Sometimes its beautiful to think that , things which are ours will all come to us .

We will never be enough of what ever we have, am never bored of eating and having friends and talking and hopefully soon writing too . When we love something  , we never get tired of the time we spend on it, on with it , or waiting for it. 🙂

FOR every hardworking person around me 

So take a break ,and have  a vacation too. Time will be lost and never regained ,because , kids grow faster and you can never have a toddler when she is around 6 or 10 , when you find time. 

Mommy leaving back to home hangover problem

Seriously our moms makes things easier for us. 

I wish , sometimes I have never being married and be with my mom always .. ( yea am sure she will run away if I had to stay with her ). But I guess thats there in everyone life , a wish remaining unsatisfied. 

Even if I stay with her 1 hour , a day or more than a year also , going away from her , is so painful. I hate it most of the times and always feel unsatisfied ,even though if we stay together  we fight like normal mom and d daughter , and I have hurt her most of the time , I still love her the most and ofcourse she is the most important person in my life .

I keep telling her she loves my brother more than me, as all kids do who has siblings at home , and she keeps telling me , that you will realise it one day when you have two kids. Now I have two kids and I know what she meant. But still without being a mom earlier too I know she loves me a lot.

Whenever she is coming home , she brings a lot many things without even me asking, who on earth can know us better than our own mother. She makes my work easier always . She is always full of energy and full of ideas. And when she is going back, my heart becomes heavy , eyes become watery , and my kitchen become full of food items. She knows how to help her daughter all the time. 

Thankyou mom always  and forever. 🙂 

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